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“At the level of respect all people are equal.”
Brian and Arthie Moore - Celebrating Humanity International

“How can any human being not embrace the spirit of humanity? Sonja Wright - Durban, South Africa.

Political freedom has come and will be here for many years to come. Or has it really?

Can there be political freedom where the colour of a person’s skin or their gender, race, religion and language is so critical to each decision, conscious or otherwise?

Horror stories of race-based decisions, true or false, abound in corporate and government circles. Laws, made necessary by the past and the tardiness of companies in their programmes of inclusivity, have ensured that we are once more separated by race.

Celebrating Humanity© training sessions are designed to build oneness, respect and humanness amongst people of different backgrounds.

At a recent training session a corporate client made their team members complete apartheid styled forms. “Are you Black, Coloured, Indian or White,” the form demanded to know.

And recently, when my wife went next door to deliver Diwali gifts of sweetmeats, our neighbour called out, “There is a coolie at the door. See what she wants!”

At aout the same time our neighbour on the other side came rushing to our fence with his family in tow. “As salaamu alaikum.” He greeted from his religion, “Here is a Diwali gift for you.”

At the end of the fast of Ramadaan we wished them “Eid Mubarak” and shared some suitable gifts on this holy day.

At the back of our house our past neighbours would pop their heads over the wall to see who dared to speak Zulu so loudly. Of course it was me with my friends. As I did not look as Zulu as they expected, they soon disappeared!

In a country like ours, where respect and an opening of our country to all is expected to be held firm through laws, “apart hate” has replaced the laws of Apartheid. And it will continue to do so until we all realise that different human beings do not diminish us.

No! They actually add to us.They add to us with their different skills, their different views and their different opinions! The manner in which have grown up, our cultures, religions and experiences all bring so much more than any one person can.

Yes. Laws that attempt to force change through colour came from the leaders of Apartheid. These leaders are no longer with us however, the general South African thinking and methods of correcting the past lie firmly in their ideologies.

Political freedom lies somewhere deeper. It lies in our ability as people to be human first. There can be no racism if we all belong to the same race - the “Human Race.”

In the Celebrating Humanity© programmes most delegates arrive with all of their prejudices. They gather in groups based on colour and culture.

Within a short time, and with the emphasis on team competition, these same people have selected multi-diverse teams. Based simply on the premises that “people who are not like me add to me.”

When the teams combine their wisdoms, skills and talents they are able to answer multiple questions and perform a wide range of tasks.

Which would simply not be possible if they all came from one culture, gender or religion.Through the process delegates bring value, are valued by their teams and experience how valuable they truly are.

A recent course deep in, what was once, AWB (Afrikaner Weerstands Beweging) country delivered this feedback...

“We are all just people. no matter race and gender.” G Chapman - Klerksdorp

"Ek dink elke liewe persoon in Suid Afrika kan baat by hierdie workshop - want mense moet ophou om in ‘n velkeur vas te kyk en eerder die verskillende kulture en persoonlikhede van mense leer!"
Translation:
I think that every person in South Africa can gain through this workshop - because people must stop being stuck in a skin colour and rather learn about the different cultures and personalities of people. - Gerda Crous - Klerksdorp.

A month later Michael Khumalo, when asked how relationships had changed, had this to say:-

“I am free to be with everyone. The supervisor is my brother. We are all brothers and sisters, together. Irrespective of, and including, all levels. We are laying the foundations for the future. We need to take this home and plant the seeds of the future for our children and the country. In this way we will grow as a nation.”

In another very conservative area in the Limpopo province the supervisor responded to a call for feedback 15 months after the programme was initially run:-

“Communication, respect and ownership improved from all sides by 100%. The respect between different race groups has been restored and some of the people who were negative have changed so much that they have been promoted to higher positions with greater responsibility.”

During the recent Celebrating Humanity pilot programme for Ethekwini Municipality, Sonja Wright, a trainee facilitator said:-
“How can any human being not embrace the spirit of humanity?”

She went on to say... “Apartheid officially died in 1994 but how it dies in our mind sets begins with us and it’s never too late (to start).”

We have a duty as South Africans to ensure that our descendants do not judge us harshly on our words and our actions. I have a duty to my son Lliam, not yet four, to ensure that he grows up in a world where he is valued as a human being. How will he look back on my exploits and antics if I do not create a safe place for humanity?

I wish that my ancestors had thought of the havoc that they were wreaking on this fine world. Not only in South Africa but world wide.

Do the leaders of Israel, Palestine, South Africa, USA, Britain and Russia - amongst others - know what mess they are building for their childrens’ children to mop up?

If they did they would take step back from the precipice and teach that “at the level of respect all humans are equal.” And if we all do not take the step, we too will be in the history books.

As dividers of the human race. As Leaders of Separation, Injustice and Disrespect. As the new perpetuators of apart hate.

Political freedom starts in a Constitution. But true freedom only exists in reality when it is indelibly imprinted in the minds, hearts, souls and actions of all the people that it protects.

Simply we need to stop our definitions. When asked to describe ourselves, no longer do we need to say Male, Female, Black, White, Indian or Coloured - we should simply say,

"I am a human being." It is NOW our time to be FREE and become members of one race. This is the moment - let us not miss it.

Brian V Moore© Durban 12/12/2004


A bean is revealed when you open it’s shell. - Zulu proverb.

We live in such a wonderful country.

We have had an incredible past and that strange history has been used by many of us as a catalyst for personal change and growth. And sadly others still hark after the past, or operate as if nothing has changed!

And change it has! South Africa has gone from skunk nation status to a place of beauty and wonder. A place where all people can live their lives with self-respect and respect for others.

I can remember when it was difficult to move around the world with a South African passport. When people in love could not be married - by virtue of their colour or race. Where we were separated into groups, denied or benefited by virtue of our birth. When cars were driven across the beautiful highways of our nation at 70kms an hour because of fuel sanctions. (A trip from Johannesburg to the coast took up to 12 hours in holiday season!)

It was a time when we were so divided that we did not know how others lived. And we did not know or understand the realities of life for people who were not white.I am delighted that Apartheid has all passed behind us. I am excited to be a part of this new country where we are an example to the world.

I am happy to be a pioneer laying the groundwork, through affirmative action and employment equity, for the children of the new generations. Sometimes it is hard to be white and male in South Africa. But nowhere as hard as it was to be "non-white" in Apartheid South Africa!

Yes, we are the new “voortrekkers”, we are the “star fleet” boldly opening up new frontiers and horizons. And we are opening up our country to all of it’s peoples. What a legacy to build for future generations!

Arthie and I are delightfully and ecstatically married. In the old South Africa this would have been impossible! We would have been hunted down & exposed. Here is a piece from http://www.fact-index.com/i/im/immorality_act.html that shows just how far we have come.

"The Immorality Act was one of the most controversial legislative acts of South African Apartheid. It attempted to forbid intermixing of couples of different race both in the area of marriage as well as casual sex.

Mixed marriages and the immorality act became the first major pieces of apartheid legislation. In 1949 mixed marriages were banned in South Africa.

In 1950 the act was followed up with a ban on sexual relations between blacks and whites. One of the first people convicted of the immorality act was a Cape Dutch Reformed minister; he was caught having sex with a domestic worker in his garage. He was given a suspended sentence and the parishioners bulldozed the garage to the ground.

On the grounds of the Immorality Act, the police tracked down mixed couples suspected of being in relationships. Homes were invaded and doors were smashed down in the process. Mixed couples caught in bed were arrested.

Underwear was used as forensic evidence in court. Most couples found guilty were sent to jail. Blacks were often given harsher sentences than whites.

In 1985 the Immorality Act and Prohibition of Mixed Marriages Act were both repealed."

The full extent of forgiveness in our country from 1990 until now will never be quantified. It has been hugely miraculous that we are where we are now.

Imagine my surprise when attending a recent birthday party for a 3 year old, when the other young parents banded together. And allowed a few of their group to make loud comments on Arthie and my relationship. "These mixed marriages are not on," said one. After a few more similar comments another stated. "At least the child came out o.k." Referring to our son Lliam who has a light Italian complexion.

Arthie has always maintained that we are indeed a mixed couple. "One boy and one girl. That is a good mix!", she says.

And of course any couple comes from mixed backgrounds. They were raised differently by their respective parents, with different morals, in different homes and in different circumstances. And some times even when your complexion is similar it is hard to mix. Have you ever heard the one about "My mother-in-law...?"

Back to the kiddies party. We did not feel aggrieved. And we felt no hurt from the "injustice" of their words, we only felt the pain in their souls. These poor & misguided people were still living in a mind-view set by a law repealed nearly 20 years ago.

Most of them were only 5 or 6 years old at that time! I wondered what their parents taught them & how they programme their own children.Yes, we wish that one day they will find love and peace. And that they too can be human beings first and not live in judgement of the first thing that their eyes see.

Which leads me to a Zulu proverb. "Uhlubu’ dlube ‘khasini" Literally - "A bean is revealed when you open the shell." It is used when one is surprised by the wisdom, skills or talents of another, or when a person does something amazing that you do not expect. This is similar to the English proverb, "you can’t judge a book by its cover."

Somehow we were being judged by our ‘colours" and a muddled perception of a "perfect relationship". Just as others are daily judged, by people from all backgrounds, by their religion, race, language, favourite sport or soccer side, hair colour, heritage and education. And anything else that makes them different to the judges.

Arthie and I have the most beautiful relationship. With our marvellous uniquenesses we add to each other. We grow each other and complement each other. We are soul-mates. Ours is a match made in Heaven! Our multi-lingual 4 year old son Lliam is a stunning, loving, warm and intelligent child.

So before you judge us - take time to get past the shell. We may be three very beautiful beans! When our true selves are revealed you may find something special within.

The multi-diverse people of South Africa are all incredibly unique beans in diverse shells. They are the reasons that we have such a marvellous country. They are what makes this such an exciting place to live in!

My greatest understanding is that people, who are different to you and I, add to us. They bring wonderful knowledge, wisdom, traditions and cultures. They bring new ideas and new views.

And they only add to us when we open the shell, question, experience and delight in their uniqueness.

Let us step away from our simplistic programmed assessments and move into today. Right here, right now, with the human beans (beings) who make you and I human.


As Arthie and I have discovered, there is so much freedom in being human first and anything else much later.

Brian V Moore - Mthimkhulu International© 24 May 2004


I am so grateful...!

One of the delegates at a Celebrating Humanity© session, came up to Arthie and I and said, "I am so grateful to you. This is the first time since I have worked for this company that I have eaten lunch whilst on a training course. I normally have to carry my own sandwiches or wait for supper. It is the first time that Halaal food has been prepared for me."

He had worked for a major multi-national vehicle manufacturer for 17 years!

This was one of many such stories. Our country has many people with different eating requirements and preferences. Interestingly food is incredibly important to relationship-building in all cultures.

An old English proverb states that, "the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach."

A saying in Setswana, "Moeng goroga re je ka wena," literally means "a visitor comes so that we may eat." To give greater meaning - "When we give we receive. We are happy when we have visitors because we prepare lot of different food for them and every member of our family gets to share with them."

And yet corporates often neglect to cater for the dietary needs of their team members. Their focus is on building skills and not relationships.

One of our past clients decided to focus on budget and stopped all refreshments and meals for delegates on training. "We have more money for training now! They will have to bring their own food."

A delegate commented after the programme, "I loved the training but couldn’t hear anything after lunch time. How am I expected to concentrate on an empty stomach." Another angrily complained, "We are just things to them. Just work units."

We now ensure that delegates are fed and more importantly that everyone receives food that is in accordance with their religion, tradition, culture or dietary need.

Often the challenge lies with the less aware conference venue or organisers. They eat everything and they are surprised that others don’t.

Amongst those who do care and actively prepare or purchase food that suits their delegates are Pineside Hotel in Pinetown and Ushaka Island. Ushaka goes to the extent of setting up separate Halaal and Kosher stations for guests.

The less aware organisers mix pork sandwiches with vegetarian and supply beef to Hindu devotees. They are joined by unaware delegates who mix the spoons from vegetarian meals with those from meat-based meals.

We recently observed a top-level business leader move from one snack tray to the next, biting into the snacks and returning the remains to the plates.

At a wedding a ravenous man grabbed at the snacks and shoved them in his mouth. He used the same hand over and again. His spittle went from mouth to snacks. Thus, through two selfish individuals, entire plates of snacks were tainted and could not be eaten by groups of people.

At a large Gauteng Casino resort a group of Eastern South Africans asked for roast chicken. Unfortunately the roast chicken shared a serving tray with a leg of pork. They asked if there were any untainted chickens.

The chef excitedly brought a new chicken on a separate serving tray, and picked up the pork knife and began to cut into the chicken. Needless to say the new chicken was tainted and the guests could not eat it.

Often supplying the correct meal is a simple one. Halaal meals can be bought from a mosque. Kosher food from a temple. Kitchens can be separated into vegetarian and meat preparation areas. Separate utensils and pots are required.

At a braai (barbecue)) use different fires and specific dedicated grills. Know your people and their preferences.

As a very simple example if your team was Hindu, Western, African and Muslim have one braai (barbecue)) for beef, another for chicken and lamb and another for vegetarian.

Separate the alcohol drinking and serving area from the eating area. Check with your team if it is alright to buy Halaal meat and if so you have a braai (barbecue)) that all people can attend. If not, more fires and grills will be needed!

If it seems like too much work, think about the extraordinary amount of work that members of your team do each day to ensure corporate success!

It really is such a little matter to cater for your team or customers and you can always source a culturally aware caterer and leave the details up to them! And whilst you are about it check your team members for the food they can or cannot eat for health reasons...

You may just save a life!

Brian V Moore© 1 June 2004


The Gift of Receiving

Have you ever offered a compliment to someone and they negated your gift?

Perhaps you said, “That is such a lovely outfit! And they answered, “This stupid old thing, I bought it for R10.00 at the flea-market.” Or “I love the way you handled that customer.” and the response was something like, “I have to. I get paid to be nice.”

When that happened how did you feel? Did you want to share another compliment with that person, or do you now steer away from saying anything good to them? Most people will stop complimenting, or offering assistance, or inviting someone for dinner if the responses are often negative.

In fact people from many groups and cultures would feel that their offer of friendship is being denied, and that hurts!

Community-based groups which could include Hindu, Muslim, Oriental and a multitude of African cultures normally offer food to a visitor. Generally they would be saddened, or even offended if their giving was refused.

Some will even become persistent, “Just one small bite.” would be their response to a refusal.Your greatest opportunity to build a relationship would be to accept the offer and sit down to a meal, or snack.

Your greatest gift is to receive the food and in so doing their greater offer of friendship.

Interestingly the more Western cultures are not used to receiving and their way of showing friendship is not to “impose”.“No please, you really don’t have to do that for me.” is a common response. Sadly this kind gesture could alienate your host.

A simple “Yes, please”, with gentle guidance to the quantity and what your beliefs allow you to eat, will ease the way. If you don’t eat curry or meat, say so. If your food has to be Halaal or Kosher, let your host know. If you do not drink alcohol, ask for water or cool-drink.If you cannot eat or receive for any reason - in many of the community based groups - merely say “Thank you.”

This gratefulness for the offer allows the gift of giving to be received, without the need to eat. Food for the body builds people and friendships, as does sustenance for the soul.

Compliments, praise and sharing are high on the main menu for the soul. The praise should be received with a humble, “Thank you.”

In allowing someone to give praise we create a world and environment where caring becomes the norm. We allow a giver to give, simply by receiving. We honour their giving with gratitude.

By humbly receiving, we give the greatest gift of all.

Brian Moore - Mthimkhulu Training© September 2002

Always ask the people you are with about the best way to be respectful in their circles.
They generally would love to share that with yo
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The Art of Giving

We could see twists of smoke rising high above the trees as we drove towards Bobby mamah’s house.

Our mood was pensive as we wondered what we would find. We had just received a message that Arthie’s mamah’s (uncle’s) home had burnt to the ground. It had been in the family for more than a hundred years.

We drove up a small dirt road and arrived at the still smoking remnants of the home. It was now just an open plot with the concrete floor lying open to the heavens and the afternoon shadows of the giant wattle trees.

Bobby mamah stumbled over. He was totally distraught and clung to me crying, “We have lost everything. It’s all gone. All gone.” I held him until he was a little calmer.

His wife and children wandered around looking for any items that may have been spared. They were in shock and tearful. They had lost their life-long belongings and all the recent purchases of gold jewellery and clothing for their daughter’s up-coming wedding.

A Hindi wedding is an expensive affair and they had committed their life’s savings to the purchases. All they now owned were the clothes that they wore. It was a huge tragedy as nothing had been insured.

As onlookers and helpers milled around the dusty smoking site, I wondered what would happen to the family. I had forgotten the nature of Hindu people. A nearby neighbour had already opened up their home and space had been made for the whole family and huge support was already at hand.

I turned to Arthie, in private and said, “We have to help them. I have a lot of clothes at home that I can give to Bobby mamah.”

She nodded and I knew that my words were not necessary. That decision had already been made.

We went home and I began to look through the clothes that I no longer used, or for items that did not fit me any longer.

When I turned to Arthie, I saw that she had begun packing brand-new clothes for the girls. “Arts,” I asked, “why are you giving away your new clothes? We just bought them a few days ago.”

She then said something that will stay with me forever, “How would you feel if you had just lost your home and you had to wear second hand clothes. New, fashionable clothes will make them feel special.” She gently added, “If you give away something it has far more value if it is something you really wanted to keep.”

Into the suitcase went all of her new clothes, new toothbrushes, toothpaste, a cuddly cat and new deodorant.

I looked at my pile and realised that my gift would not make anyone feel special on such a tragic day. I then began to find items that would raise my spirit if I were in mamah’s place.

My mind wrestled with my resolve as some of my favourite items went in to the suitcase. And as I worked I thought how different this was to my own upbringing and my mind went back to the scene. It seemed as if the news had been painted on the sky for all to see.

A continuous stream of family and friends had arrived bringing love, care, support and assistance. And just as we were leaving for home, another family member had arrived with two plastic-wrapped beds atop a delivery van. Brand new gifts - just for the family.Months after the fire we visited the family.

They were now fairly well settled. One of the girls said to Arthie. “You really made us feel really special. You thought of everything. Clothes, toothbrushes, deodorant and most of all that cuddly cat was exactly like the one I had lost in the fire. It was if you had read our minds!”

It is moments like this that I again realise that my wife is truly special and that there are many lessons to be learnt from her and from other cultures.

From the moment we met our path has been one of growth and learning. We jointly bring something truly special to our relationships and through our work we will leave a powerful and positive legacy of humanness in the world.

Brian V Moore© Durban, South Africa